Starting the conversation with yourself

There are two reasons why you should consider this type of introspection.

  1. Nobody CAN do for you what you NEED to do for yourself.
  2. You CANNOT know what you NEED if you aren’t speaking with yourself.

It is impossible to be fulfilled without this level of self-actualization. Speaking to yourself is completely different than talking to any other individual. 

It is your time to speak free of judgment, to root-out your insecurities, and finally quite your internal chatter.  

If you are avoiding talking to yourself, and you’ll know because the thoughts in your head will become chaotic, then you can’t help but fall out-of-touch with your ideal-self. 

This realization came to me in a lesson from the mystic author Magus Incognito. He teaches that: 

“ one needs to take exercises to concentrate his mind on a thing which he really wants. It is the things you do not really care about which require effort to fix your attention upon them.”

It takes very little effort to get fully immersed in your favorite TV show, or while playing a team sport. 

Feeling rushed, forced or even overwhelmed clearly show that you aren’t concentrating on the thing you really want. 

And the way to get what you really want, what we all want, is to know yourself better. 

You can start the conversation with a question you've been sitting with. Or you can pick a particular word that represents an ideal you would like to focus your attention. Words like confidence, sincerity, enthusiasm.

My last tip for today is to go beyond pondering or meditating for this convo; put words down on paper. To me, writing it down (not typing) feels like I’m able to get them out of my head.


P.S. This was originally sent on June 9, 2023. Sign up today for Daily Emails and get our free OCD resource: Unstuck.

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